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Gabbie's avatar

As a fellow large breasted woman who has endured the struggle of people only seeing me for my boobs, I really needed this validation.

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Kate Bergam's avatar

Same and was saddened to learn that the author was only 29. This shouldn’t keep happening generation after generation.

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Gabbie's avatar

I’m 25, so seeing that the author is only a handful of years older does feel frustrating knowing there’s no relief from this societal mindset, but I also felt solidarity. I hope the generations who follow won’t feel the same scrutiny.

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Toyah is Thinking + Feeling ♥'s avatar

I adore the realness you share here - and how the perpetual invalidation of what a ‘smart woman’ could, should, does look like. I have felt the same about other parts of my body and my looks. It’s damn exhausting, but talking about it frankly, finding your folks who amplify this realness and make these statements is so important. 💘

Can I also say - what a bloody brilliant title. Honestly. Brilliant. ❤️‍🔥

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Kate Bergam's avatar

“Quickly, when was the last time someone considered a person with slightly larger breasts as intelligent? I’m serious, name one person off the top of your head right now.”

Joan played by Christina Hendricks on the tv show Mad Men. She played that character flawlessly.

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Natalie's avatar

Feeling seen - because while nobody told me to be ashamed of my boobs, I always was!

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Fiona's avatar

I once saw a T-Shirt with "Big Boobs - even bigger dreams" on it and can't seem to forget it. Maybe a small and fun way to make yourself feel better in your body, by pointing it out directly

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Candid Anxious Avoidant's avatar

31 years old here and still struggling to accept mine. Loved reading this!

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SHRUTI CHANDEL's avatar

This happening repeatedly to ourselves, even conditions us to hypersexualise OR resent other women alike us. It takes a second to shake ur head nd realise "this is a real woman body AND it's natural" we come in all shapes and sizes. You gotta remind YOURSELF, especially to decondition ur own self.

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