The term pick me has become so far removed from its original context. It baffles me that a joke about thinking you are very attractive could be seen as “pick me” when the term was originally meant to denote the ways in which girls throw other girls under the patriarchy bus for male approval. I think the problem lies in trying to diagnose particular actions (rather than a pattern of behaviours) as “pick me”.
This. When I was first introduced to “pick me” I understood it as a way to call out other girls for their internalized misogyny. Now it’s become an insult to any woman doing ANYTHING outside the box. It’s like women who have untraditional, non-feminine behaviors are deemed a pick me, when really they’re just unique.
The term pick me has become so far removed from its original context. It baffles me that a joke about thinking you are very attractive could be seen as “pick me” when the term was originally meant to denote the ways in which girls throw other girls under the patriarchy bus for male approval. I think the problem lies in trying to diagnose particular actions (rather than a pattern of behaviours) as “pick me”.
This. When I was first introduced to “pick me” I understood it as a way to call out other girls for their internalized misogyny. Now it’s become an insult to any woman doing ANYTHING outside the box. It’s like women who have untraditional, non-feminine behaviors are deemed a pick me, when really they’re just unique.