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Oh wow, okay, yep, this is relatable 🥲🥲🥲 thanks for putting it into words, friend (the way you casually summed up my innermost thoughts/feels, we’re def friends now. I don’t make the rules.)

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Wanted to restack

90% of this. So many golden quotes.

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saving this so I can read it again. And again. And again. Thank for you putting into words all the turmoil we feel.

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I am sharing this with everyone in my life. You are not alone

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Forgiveness is hard for me, too. I tend to keep coming back to thinking that if the damage done to me was permanent, then I reserve the right to be angry permanently, too. But then how much damage am I inflicting on MYSELF at that point? I need to channel more of this energy.

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this was exactly my sentiment when writing this !! 🩵

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this read was exactly what I needed this morning

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I believe forgiveness also doesn't mean you condone whatever they did, it just means you can accept it happened and you are trying to move on with understanding & compassion, for yourself. Anger just consumes and eats away at you. It doesn't make you weak or a bad person by forgiving someone. You're doing it for yourself too and it can take a lot of courage. I think about this all the time in my own life

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Needed to read this today. Thank you for writing this ♥️

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Thoughtfully put and perfectly articulated. Saving this to revisit whenever needed (which will be often!) Thank you. ✨

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“I often don’t feel angry about the things done to me until way after the fact. Months later. Sometimes even years later.” Me too ❤️‍🩹 thanks for sharing this

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Wow, thank you. I could have written huge tracks of this. Only, I'm hulk style angry all the time. That one scene in the first avengers movie when he says his secret is that he's always angry, that's me. Everything fuels it. But I resonate so much with the discussion on forgiveness (I'm often a forgive and accept, not forget). Being able to still be soft, tender is a choice and I choose it alk the time. I'd burn from the inside out if I didn't. I choose where to funnel the anger, sometimes it's just into the sky, earth or sea. It is a symptom of so many other emotions and situations. One of the the underpinning emotions for me is love. People are horrible but I love humans, I love the earth and all that entails, I love so much. That helps keep the flames under control.

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Yeah but some people don’t deserve forgiveness. Maybe not anger either. Indifference is also a cool thing :)

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as taylor swift herself says

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BOOM

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